2017

Farting and Zouk by Ben Weston

Aka the one where Candace and WonGyu kept farting and zouking. And then burritos afterward.

Aka Candace + Won: Gooey

Aka "Cuddles" Candace + Won "Gyuey

Aka Fartin & Zoukin

Driving in Manhattan While Making Love by Ben Weston

Here’s what I wished someone told me when I first started learning to lead in partner dancing:

Learning to lead as a beginner feels like trying to drive an SUV through Manhattan while making love at the same time: perhaps pleasurable at times but you’re much too busy trying not to die.

(Note: dying for men = messing up and looking foolish in front of women)

While leading, you’ll be thinking about your footwork, where the woman’s weight is, what to do with your upper body, holding your frame correctly, the beat of the music, making sure you don’t run into anyone, making sure no one elbows your follow in the head (sorry about that, J!), what moves to do next, all the while wondering:

“Oh god. Is she bored with me only leading the same two moves?!”

---

Last year, after taking a few lessons and classes, I went to my first Zouk social. During one of my dances, I was getting overwhelmed trying to keep track of the music’s fast pace and messing up as a result.

Before the song was over, the follow stopped moving, let go of my hands, said “thank you”, and proceeded to make a complete 180 and walk away.

Fuck this. This is stressful.

I stopped doing any Zouk after that for 6 months.

---

If you’re a dude looking to learn partner dancing, please know the following:

1. You will have to go through the valley of public suckage in the beginning.

2. It's so fuckin worth it.

I just came back from the world’s largest Zouk festival. Every night, in every room of dancing, the walls were lined with beautiful women waiting for a man to be available to dance with.

And if you're a decent enough lead, *you* get approached.

Welcome to heaven, my friend  :)

An Asian Magic Mike - Dance Film by Ben Weston

I just spent 6 months to make a video of me giving a lap dance.

Here’s why:

1. It’s a video for my 15 year old self, the kid in his basement room that made a check list titled: “How To Be a Man”

(I still have it)

It was what I believed I needed to look and be like before I could be sexually desirable:

- Have biceps that strain my shirt sleeves
- Have pectorals that look like Batman’s chest plates
- Be less sensitive
- Be more aggressive
- Be cockier
- Have piercings
- Have tattoos

I thought I needed to look and be like the love child of Mark Wahlberg and Johnny Depp.

This belief lasted long past high school and still has some of its tentacles wrapped around me.

So, this video is for my 15 your old self that still lives on. You can rest now, playa.

You fine as hell.

2. There are very few things that piss me off. The fact that Asian men in Hollywood are never the romantic lead or portrayed as being sexually powerful - THAT pisses me off.

How many times has Jackie Chan saved the day and home-boy still doesn’t get any?

Jet Li was god damn R-O-M-E-O in “Romeo Must Die” and still nothing?!

I may not be able to whoop ass like those OGs, but I can body roll like a mo’fo and will do my part to show that Asian men can be sexy AS FUCK.

This leads right into the final reason.

3. As much as I love both Magic Mike movies, there was an egregious omission in both of them - an Asian brotha.

But don’t you worry, Channing Tatum - I got you.

I’m your Asian Magic Mike.

---

Directed by: Ben Weston
Featuring: Ben Weston, Alyssa Adkins
Director of Photography: Matthew Alvero
Edited by: Ben Weston, Matthew Alvero
Camera Operator: Wendell Alvero
Song: "Go Fuck Yourself" - Two Feet